Although it is not a contemporary theme or characteristic, transgenderism, transsexuality or transvestism still arouse doubts, controversies and prejudices today.
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Family life is crucial in reinforcing self-esteem, a comfortable life and concentrating energy to combat transphobia. On the other hand, it can be the first space of rejection, stigma and exclusion.
Ignorance often prevails. And even the most friendly people end up becoming tormentors when they face the issue at home. After all, how to deal with a trans son, daughter, brother or sister?
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In a recent interview with Crescer, Marcelo Tas revealed his harmonious relationship with his son, Luc, who stated that he is not a woman, but a transsexual man. According to the CQC leader, he is part of a generation that families welcome and seek to understand transsexuality in the best possible way.
Discover 10 celebrities who deal with gender issues at home:
– Former player Toninho Cerezo, father of Lea T
The coach's focus was on him when the international media discovered that Lea T, a transsexual who was emerging in the fashion world, was his daughter. While some media invented that they didn't get along, Toninho showed that he never abandoned her. "I was the last to find out, even because I already knew. But I never questioned, I never fought", he told the Lance newspaper.
At the time, he was coach of Sport-PE and was advised to leave the team. He stated that his greatest friend was "the time" he had to understand the situation and that soon made the penny drop. An example? "I remember one time there was a Corinthians and São Paulo classic and I took them all to the field. Lea fell asleep during the game. When they were children I put them at football school, during Sampdoria's time. She was playing on the plane, nor there for the ball."
– Actors Warren Beatty and Annette Bening, parents of Stephen Ira Beatty
In 2012, the actor couple's son publicly admitted at the age of 18 that he is a transman. "My name is Stephen, I identify as a transgender man, gay, homosexual, fighter, nerd, writer, artist and a guy who needs a haircut." He has already made several videos, but does not mention his parents, who do not seem to encourage, but also do not prohibit exposure and militancy. The Daily Mail reported that the mother supports her son "as best she can, despite the painful situation."
– Musician M Lamar, brother of Laverne Cox
It's true that Laverne is much better known today than her brother, but it's important to emphasize that it's the musician who appears in the male version of hairdresser Sophia from the series "Orange is The New Black". Detail: they are twins and get along wonderfully. "We have a very strong bond and we have a lot of respect for each other. We respect each other as artists and as people. And I was grateful to be able to share this moment with him in the series", declared Laverne. Need I say anything else?
– Presenter Marcelo Tas, Luc’s father
The CQC leader spoke about his relationship with Luc, his son who at 22 years old claimed to be a transgender man. Today, at 25, his relationship with his family is one of admiration and respect. Tas says that new generation families are the first to treat a child's transsexuality in a natural, welcoming and transparent way – as it always should have been.
"Issues of sexuality and gender are important. But they are not more important than the unconditional love that we must maintain in our family. This is the most important issue in our lives."
– Actors Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, parents of Shiloh
We would be irresponsible if we classified Shiloh, Brad and Angelina's 8-year-old daughter, as a transgender child. But it is necessary to highlight the absolutely libertarian treatment that Hollywood's hottest couple gives to the little girl who has a "tomboy" style. Shiloh easily wears items from the men's wardrobe and even has the support of her parents to call herself John.
In an interview with Vanity Fair, Angelina said: "She thinks she's one of the brothers. She's extremely funny and talkative. She's the funniest person you can meet." Brad revealed one of the conversations on Oprah Winfrey's talk show: "If I say: Shi, do you want… she stops me and says "John. I'm John." "So I say: John, do you want orange juice? Then she responds: No!" Regardless of whether she is trans or not, Shiloh will grow up being herself.
– Actor David Arquette, brother of Alexis Arquette
The artist brothers are known in Hollywood and appear to get along well. So much so that it is possible to see photos of them hugging both before Alexis' transition and after. Recently, Alexis was asked about the references she has to her brothers and she said that the biggest complication is not acceptance of her new identity, forty years later, but comparisons of success, since they are both actors.
"He (David) receives offers, he can choose. But people can say very unpleasant things: 'Why aren't you doing as well as your brother?'. They forget that not everyone has the same goals in this world or wants to be known by everyone who inhabits this planet", says she who has starred in "Bride of Chucky" and "Three Ways to Love".
– Writer Ernest Hemingway, father of Gloria Hemingway
Doctor Gloria's life was full of ups and downs, but not due to her relationship with her parents. In her biography Papa: Personal Memoir, she tells of the close contact she had with the British writer and personal details not yet known to the public. Despite this, Gloria lived for decades as a man, married women four times and even lost the right to practice due to alcohol and drug abuse. She lived for many years on the allowance provided by her family. She died in 2001, aged 69, from hypertension and cardiovascular disease.
– Rapper R. Kelly, Jay’s father
But just because someone is well-known doesn't mean they necessarily think about setting good examples. Singer R. Kelly was unhappy to learn that Jay – his 13-year-old son – came out as a transgender man on social media. In addition to denying the information to the press, he was furious when questioned. Jay states, however, that he has been receiving support from his mother and brothers. "She was very proud of me and, yes, my father still hasn't spoken to me," he said.
– Singer Cher, mother of Chaz Bono
Dealing with transsexuality is not always easy within families – even if it has a matriarch like Cher. The gay diva took a while to understand that her daughter is actually a son, after 40 years. Whether in male treatment or transformations. But with a little help and love, everything was overcome.
"My daughter's sexual reassignment (sex change) gave me a deep and visceral knowledge of gender and sex issues. But it took me a while to understand. I have friends who have had sex changes, but Chaz made me feel that way. true", said the singer, who defended her son tooth and nail during a dance reality show. "I can teach him manners. He can critique Chaz's dancing style, his moves, but don't make fun of my son on TV", he roared. It's a lot of love!
– Filmmaker Andy Wachowski, brother of Lana Wachowski
Known as The Wachowskis, from the United States, the brothers are responsible for nothing less than the success of the Matrix trilogy. In recent years, Lana has come out as transgender and admits that it took so long for fear of not being accepted by her family. However, to her surprise, her inseparable brother supported her. "He'd rather work with Lana than Larry," she said, referring to his old identity. They also worked together on V for Vendetta, Speedy Race and, this year, Jupiter Ascending.
