They say the pain of separation is greater than that of childbirth. Perhaps only a woman can confirm whether it is true or not. But there is one moment, without a doubt, that tops the ranking of pain: the first cry, when the penny drops, the certainty that the relationship has gone to hell. It's the final straw, the final straw. As Maysa would say, my world fell apart. Sometimes, chororô occurs in the worst situations, in the least recommended places or in the presence of a small audience. It's always embarrassing. But there's no way to escape. You have to go through it and try to get out of it without too much loss or damage, just a tantrum that friends forgive and even forget, for a while.
It's not easy to wake up alone, without that blanket that warms you so much on cold nights. Sometimes, it's even a relationship without corniness, without soap opera romance, without a straight ritual to follow. But it is always very difficult to change your marital status. We get used to it and, one fine day, we have to move on, just us and no one else. It's like waking up from a good dream, before your time. We have to deal with the loss, with the new time, the new scenario. It is not always a path without risks, without relapses, without unexpected situations. How to remember something that was once a portrait of happiness and pleasure. Or break down when seeing a photo, a video, a scene. Simply waking up and getting out of bed becomes a burden.
Last case documented by this column: the separation of a blogger and his partner of four years. The entire relationship was marked by crises, one was jealous of the other's ex. It was hysterical: the other person was always under suspicion. No one could get close to him if the other thought there would be sex, betrayal, sluttiness. It was a rollercoaster to live with this couple. They always fought, something a bit theatrical. They lived together and organized parties… suspenseful. After all, an ex always showed up, and the night ended in a fight. It is not possible to know what really happened, if there was a pivot in the separation. But the two decided to separate the toothbrushes.
At a party last weekend, in an apartment on Rua Augusta, a video was shown. The blogger was moved by the material, excused himself from his colleagues and went to the bathroom, returning about ten minutes later. The images that triggered the worst chapter of their separation were from a work of fiction. It's called "El Sueño". It's a little more than nine minutes in which a boy remembers a kiss, a touch, a hug, a caress. In memory of him, everything is so real, vivid, before it fades into thin air. The work was done with a Spanish cast (two beautiful boys), during the Brazilian Branco Chiacchio's study period in Spain.
Anatomy
Branco Chiacchio, the creator of the short film "El Sueño", spent six months in Valencia, Spain. "El Sueño" is not his first audiovisual work. In another short ("Self-Portrait"), he takes on the screen and presents his life, in a text in which the words, images and framing, as well as the music, create a poem of great sensitivity and delicacy. For romantic boys and dreamers It's all so cute and inspiring. Chiacchio is currently developing an installation in which he plays with the perception of the male frontal nude. He photographs men with their penises exposed, focusing on the model's facial expressions. spontaneously, that is, they want to display their member for the professional's eyes. In Spain, students contacted Chiacchio and allowed their nudity to be portrayed. The idea is to continue the research in São Paulo until enough images are available to complete the installation. be mounted in a dark environment.
Politics
The Public Defender's Office of Pará opened the first Reference Center for the Prevention and Combat of Homophobia in Pará. Based in Belém, the center promises to offer legal and psychosocial assistance. To achieve this, there will be an interdisciplinary team with social workers, pedagogues and psychologists. The objective of the initiative is to curb violence against the LGBT community.
* Sérgio Ripardo is a journalist and author of "Guia GLS SP" (Publifolha). Talk to him: http://sergio.ripardo.blog.uol.com.br/.
