Much less popular or commercial than other dates, Friend's Day is celebrated this Monday (20). And it addresses the bonds of those who chose and chose to share moments with you.
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The LGBT community, often seen as disunited, also weaves important and fundamental bonds between the members of the alphabet soup.
It is the cis gay man who dries the tears and motivates his transvestite friend. It's a cis lesbian who gave that hug to the gay man who was disappointed with his ex. She is the transsexual woman who motivated her bisexual friend's life. And everyone building a better life.
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The examples above are not mere utopias. So much so that the THE CAPE went looking for inspiring stories that talk about the importance of friendship.
"She saved me when I felt abandoned, dirty and guilty"
Itallon Lourenço, psychology student and friend of Naiana
"At the beginning of last year, right after I ended a relationship, I had a general check-up and a health problem came up. It was an extremely complicated time. I had no contact with my family, I suffered homophobia from my relatives, I was changing cities and the alliances were all distant. At the beginning of my course, I met a girl who from the beginning was very careful with me, Naiana. I was very quiet about my life, but as she and I are militants, we got closer. alone and with no reason to carry all the weight and I know there are many people in the same situation taking their own lives.
I created a fanpage to talk about my feelings. It helped, but there was a lack of touch, a hug, a word… I asked her to look at my publications and she thanked me for her trust. She was there when I felt alone, abandoned, dirty and guilty. She is the person whose smile or simple achievements are enough to make me happy. She is a lesbian and I am gay. Our relationship reminds me a lot of the 80s, when lesbian women saw their friends dying and organized themselves to fight for their lives. Today, in another context, a context in which I can have a life as healthy as anyone else, she saved me."
"We went through the transition side by side, giving us strength"
Johi Farias, activist in the Trans Men movement, friend of Samuca
"I have a great friend who started transitioning at the same time as me, when I didn't even know what it was or what to do. In a group of trans men, I asked if there was anyone from Rio de Janeiro to guide me. And he – Samuca Castro – he was the only one who answered me. In the first consultation, I met him and he taught me how to place the order and how everything worked. Afterwards, we realized that the service didn't work as we needed.
Sometimes I was discouraged and he was the one who cheered me up. Sometimes he wanted to give up everything and I looked for a solution. Until we found another place to continue our journey and we created a true friendship. We had a similar life, we went through complicated situations, so when one was down, the other was strong. After everything, we went to the public defender's office, went to various registry offices all day, and even got our certificates. At this moment, we looked at each other, shook hands and he said: "From the beginning together." And I concluded: Until the end together".
He appeared on his knees asking not to kiss the love of his life."
Luiz Becherine, cameraman
"Renan Correa (in the photo, without glasses) and I have known each other for over 15 years. Our first contact was at Tunnel, when a boy appeared to tease me and another boy knelt down, asking me not to kiss him, because he he was the love of his life. That kneeling boy was Renan (laughs) and of course I didn't stay with the boy. A week later, we met again and soon discovered that we studied at the same school.
At the time, we talked all week on the now-defunct ICQ and always planned to go out on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. We became so close that everyone swore we were boyfriends. So much so that, once, when I went to give my phone to a boy, the boy shouted at me: "How dare you give your phone in front of your boyfriend." Interestingly, we never fight over a man, but I always argue that I stopped kissing the guy for a guy he didn't even stay with. He is my great friend."
"She gave me the strength to leave home and be more independent"
Thiago Marques, journalist, friend of drag artist Lisa
"We met at journalism school in 2009 and since then we haven't been apart. We've been through a lot of times together, good and bad, and nothing has managed to shake our friendship. Despite being the same sign (Cancer), we're very different. Lisa ( drag queen) has always been in the spotlight, loves the camera, likes to be seen. I'm more shy, I prefer behind the scenes. We fought several times, even the last argument was quite heavy.
But it's no use, we love each other and we're on good terms again. Friendship was established over time, with advice, with the help that one always gave to the other, in times of difficulty... We were very excited for each other's achievements. She, for example, gave me a lot of advice, a lot of strength to leave home and be more independent. Lisa gave me the maturity that I didn't have. After her, I can say that I became more of an adult."
"We went out clubbing, but after my father passed away I felt the friendship"
Gustavo Don, Coordinator of the Mogiano LGBT Forum, friend of Victor
"Victor (Fontes) knew me from the 2nd year of high school, we studied at the same school, but I didn't know him. He followed me on Orkut, then Facebook. And when I created the Kisses for Feliciano campaign, he was one of the first people who sent the photo: I was with my mother at the LGBT Parade. We talked on Facebook and discovered that we were neighbors, and then we started going out on a daily basis and enjoying clubs together.
After my father passed away, his help was essential for me to get out of a very depressed phase. There was a day that really impacted me, when I practically stayed in bed all day without any motivation and he came to the house just to talk. This showed the amount of affection and love he has for me. I consider him a brother who I can always count on. It's a relationship that will last a lifetime, because I can't live without his friendship. ".
“Friendship with Julia broadened my horizons about trans people”
Marcus Lucon, friend of Julia Cavalcante
I admit that, before bonding with Julia, I had the wrong image of trans people. And she helped me understand better. She always said: 'bee, it's not like that'. We teach each other, with patience and friendship. We talk about everything, from the most futile to the most controversial and deep subjects. But we share many of our dreams and that is what gives me an immense feeling of trust, because we only share our dreams with those we want to be part of them”.
Did you remember any friend in particular? Leave your story in the comment below!
