Pedrosa! I am going through a moment of great conflict. Here's the thing, I'm having sex with my stepfather. He has been married to my mother for 10 years. This whole time nothing happened between us, just a few glances. It turns out that at the beginning of this year I was alone at home with him, my mother had gone to the market. He finished his shower and asked me to take the towel, which was on the clothesline, to the bathroom for him. When I entered the room I found him sexually excited. He kept shaking his member towards me. I couldn't resist and gave him a long oral. Then it all started. We have sex every week. I do not know what to do. He says that marriage with my mother is not good for him. Please help me. Israel (Santos – SP)
This situation posed by you is very unusual. I've come across several atypical situations, whether in the office or through questions sent by internet users to this column, but this one sent by you is really one of the winners. Perhaps a much more atypical case that I dealt with involved incest: a teenage son who had sexual relations with his mother.
Well, let's look at your case. He is your stepfather so there is no blood relationship involved. The cultural rules of our society most severely condemn carnal involvement between blood relatives. In your specific case, you report that, according to your stepfather, his marriage with your mother is not good for him. This opened a door for him to get involved with other people, since his relationship is not going well. And he gets involved with you, giving us an element to raise the hypothesis of his possible homosexuality.
How can I help you? Here we raise some questions for you to reflect on. Israel, I think you should talk to your stepfather and show how you really feel about each other: is it just an adventure?; what are the feelings involved in this relationship?; Is the connection between you purely sexual?; what is the future of this involvement?; What are the consequences if this relationship becomes public for you, your mother and your family?
I think that if the conclusion is that there is only sex and lust between you, perhaps it is not the case that you will continue in the relationship.
* João Batista Pedrosa is a psychologist (CRP 06/31768-3) and author of the book Segundo Desire (Iglu). Send your queries and questions to pedrosa@syntony.com.br. Also visit your website http://www.syntony.com.br/.
