Pedrosa, I wanted your opinion. Let me explain. I've been dating a prostitute since January. I met him in a nightclub. At first it was difficult for me, because I started to love it and I didn't have much faith that it would work out. But things picked up and he's living with me. I'm being criticized a lot and some friends have disappeared. One said he was with me for financial interest, it turns out he earns more than me. I'm an administrative assistant. Even though I'm happy, I'm confused, he says he loves me, but he can't leave this profession now, because he doesn't know how to do anything else. We want to build something together. He is 26 years old and I am 32 years old. What do I do? (Marlon – SP)
Marlon, telling you what you should do is difficult for me. I have little information about your situation. Well, I'm going to ask you some questions here for you to reflect on. Dating a prostitute is not a common occurrence. But, I think it is possible as long as the rules of coexistence between you are well established. A call boy provides a sexual service to his clients. He is a sex worker, selling sexual services in exchange for money. This profession is known as the oldest in the world.
Prostitution has been recorded since ancient times. Nowadays in the Netherlands this craft is regulated. I've had prostitute clients and I was able to better understand the world and lives of these sex workers. You want to build something together – for this to happen it is necessary for him to start thinking about another profession, as the professional life of a call boy, unlike a call girl, is very short. Generally, they retire before two 30 years of age. Studying and having another, more lasting profession seems to be a solution. Maybe it's time for you to guide him in this direction. You are happy and you like him. So I think you should go ahead. Enjoy this moment, believe that it is possible and the future will define this situation. As many friends as there are, those who really like you will stay by your side. Good luck!
*João Batista Pedrosa is a psychologist (CRP 06/31768-3) and author of the book "Segundo Desire" (Iglu). Send your queries and questions to pedrosa@syntony.com.br. Also access your website.
