I think I'm a different gay! I want your opinion: I don't like penetrating or being penetrated, just affection and masturbation. I just can't find anyone. People either want to be active or passive, and I don't like penetration. Is there this gay dictatorship of just wanting to penetrate? José (Araras – SP)
José, really, your case is quite atypical. The vast majority of gays enjoy sex with anal and oral penetration; penetrate or be penetrated. Then it becomes difficult for you to find someone. I think you're not the only gay guy who likes sex without penetration. I know reports of other gays who, like you, don't enjoy penetration. Look for someone with this profile, you might find it. Chances are you have a reinforcing history of having non-penetrative sex.
Regarding the dictatorship of gays, I have another point of view on this issue. I don't think it's really a dictatorship. Homosexual sex is a natural variant of heterosexual sex. In heterosexual sex there is a behavioral susceptibility for the penis to be introduced into the vagina so that the man obtains pleasure together with the woman. Gays may have inherited this characteristic of obtaining pleasure. In this case, do not penetrate the vagina, but the anus. This behavior may have been phylogenetically selected, therefore, it is not something linked to cultural practice. Anyway, if you enjoy this kind of non-penetrative sex – keep doing it.
*João Batista Pedrosa is a psychologist (CRP 06/31768-3) and author of the book "Segundo Desire" (Iglu). Send your queries and questions to pedrosa@syntony.com.br. Also access your website.
