We often come across that old cliché of “I don't understand, a girl as beautiful as you could have any man she wanted” or worse “I don't understand how a man can not like women” or “I don't understand what it takes a person dressing as a different gender than theirs” or “your face is so pretty, I don’t understand why you’re not thin”.
“I don’t understand” for me is synonymous with “I don’t accept”.
In this salad of information and controversies, I ask, what do you, reader of this humble blog, not understand? Yes, because many people don't understand anything, but no one asks us: What shocks you?
Here, I will speak for myself. And I believe that many share the same feeling.
Naked women on television shocks me. I do not accept. Yes, they are naked! I feel ashamed of those women exposing themselves to the absurdity of showing their sexual organs, ashamed of the wives who are close to their husbands drooling with a human being next to them. And shame on the daughters and granddaughters who witness a myopic view of the reality of their bodies.
Then everyone has an option. So, okay, change the channel and a hot girl is advertising prescription glasses dressed in a bikini (!). If television had a smell, would it be so pleasant to have your ass rubbed in its face after lunch?
What do I do about it? I change the channel and write.
It shocks me that people still throw garbage in the street and sofas in the stream.
What do I do about it? I watch and write.
It shocks me to receive a fine for walking in the bus lane when on that day and time a brown guy was telling everyone to take the bus lane due to an accident that closed the other lanes. I'm also shocked by the number of potholes in the streets. What do I do about it? I'll appeal the fine and if they comply, if they don't, bad luck for me.
White cotton socks with dress pants shock me. What do I do about it? I laugh.
I don't understand people who offer their face to kiss but don't make a kiss. What do I do about it? I grab it again and ask for a kiss with a snap.
The accelerated consumption of things we don't need really scares me. What do I do about it? My part.
I'm suspicious of people who go on social media without a photo on their profile. What do I do about it? I don't accept him as a friend.
People who shout out the bus window: “Hey bitch, I miss you!” Isn't slut bad? Whatnot. What do I do about it? I pretend I don't know.
For someone to think that the state of SP accounting for 33% of the national GDP is cool disappoints me. Wow, it would be cool if all the states in the country had their GDP strengthened and the state of SP was 1000 times better because it didn't need to share its profits so much with the union. Concentration of income is not good for anyone. What do I do about it? I discuss and write.
Luciano Huck and Angélica on the cover of Veja makes me laugh as an example of a modern couple. What do you mean by example? I love them both as media people but I don't know if they treat their closest people and each other well. I have no idea how they behave in private. An example, for me, are couples who, in real difficulties, overcome their problems and remain together even in poverty. What do I do about it? I don't buy the magazine.
The corporatism of the pat on the back shocks me. What do I do about it? Am sorry.
It saddens me so much war and so many hungry people. The rapes and stonings. I do not accept domestic violence and child abuse. Ignorance and intolerance pisses me off. What do I do about it? I pray.
People with such mediocre lives irritate me that they need to talk about other people's lives to feel alive. What do I do about it? Contempt.
Taxi driver who quotes the Bible the entire way and in the end deceives me by taking longer routes to charge R$8,00 more for the trip is absurd. What do I do about it? Anything. I would report it, but I think that would hurt the guy and he must need it more than me.
I think this list would have a thousand other things, but the general conclusion is: If you don't have the capacity to understand, just accept it. Have you ever imagined if everything that shocks me in the list above I did something directly to change? I would beat the taxi driver, kill pedophiles and spit on brown people. And even then it wouldn't work.
Because there are a thousand other things that we don't understand and don't accept and that can be changed for the common good of EVERYONE and not just ourselves.
