Strictly speaking, the excerpt above exemplifies the unfounded discourse, which feeds the dilemma of internalized prejudice so striking within the LGBT community and denotes the inferiority complex of gay people, who constantly try to mold themselves into the image of straight people.
Par excellence, “being discreet and out of the loop” is a preponderant factor, perpetuated in dating apps. Be gay? All good! Does it look good? Never!
The construction of the male image is fragile, and even among straight men, the demand for an insensitive man, who does not show fragility, is mandatory. Removing your eyebrows, shaving your armpit, shaving, knowing how to cook, having a thin voice or being polite is a laughing matter.
Being effeminate affects the image of machismo, and that is why effeminate people are revolutionaries.
Taking as a basis the common sense that effeminate people are, necessarily, scandalous, is as true as saying that all religious people are narrow-minded. The dispute between males, to discover who exudes more virility; The embarrassing scenes that heterosexuals tend to have when they are drunk, among countless other cases that human beings go to great lengths to attract attention, are scandalous acts that are independent of sexual orientation.
The incessant search for the masculine man, who has no appearance, has a deep voice, a hairy chest and is rustic, denounces the loss of identity of a culture that has been searching for its space in society for years.
The dichotomy of discreet and indiscreet (it wasn't always like this), treating those who do not fit into the standards of hetornormativity with disgust, symbolizes the disunity of a community in need of inclusion and acceptance.
By instinct, we always seek safety. Based on this assumption, the abjection of the effeminate, the scandalous chick is “understandable”, after all, they are never represented in soap operas, advertisements, films… and when they appear, they are always the target of jokes and humiliation. However, resisting the status quo is necessary.
Assuring that you are disgusted by effeminate people or even “nothing against it”, disguising your prejudice as “just a matter of taste”, is vile, in addition to being an unfounded opinion.
Claiming that the queers who worship POP divas do not represent you, on the contrary, they are a source of shame for not conforming to the archetype of the “macho man”, is to neglect all the effeminate people who died in this country – and in the world – legitimizing a lot of struggle that , maybe you don't know, but it made all the difference so that two bearded, spotted and out-of-touch men have the freedom to walk around hand in hand.
And if you are one of those who believe that it is not obligatory to come out, support the cause, because you are an idiot, know that few things in life are worse than a homophobic fagot.
Even worse is to belittle the struggle of an entire community, stating that they like effeminate people, but only as friends, because they are “funny”. Dear, no one here wants to be an audience entertainer or be treated like a clown... here's a tip.
