I don't wish loneliness even on my worst enemy. Human beings were not born to be alone. We need contact, touch, interaction. It is in the exchange that we realize ourselves.
There are people who say that being alone is vital for the process of self-knowledge. I'll speak for myself: I hate being alone. I'm not good company for myself. In my life, I have always prioritized long-lasting relationships. It's no surprise that I've been married for 5 years and I have friends that I've been interacting with for 10, 15 years. I think loneliness corrodes thoughts, brings anxiety and undermines self-esteem.
I know there are people who know how to get by on their own. I don't condemn. I know several people who have an incredible sense of self-preservation, are super confident and determined. They go to the cinema alone, they like to isolate themselves to read a good book and they even travel with themselves. But I do not. The problem is that I tend to miss the people I love when loneliness overwhelms me. I'm not as safe as you think. I'm fragile and I like being that way. It is in this fragility that I find myself, that I define the paths that will follow.
Paulinho da Viola, in the lyrics of "A Dança da Solidade", sings that "solitude is lava that covers everything / Bitterness in my mouth / Your lead teeth smile". Loneliness is a horrible thing, simply put. May you always be happy and well accompanied!
